February 7, 2019

Death On Facebook & Floods

2019 Feb 06

Sitting here in a dark house at 10:00am with rolling thunder scaring Stella and an intermittent connection due to heavy rain ... I have a lot to write about today. It ranges from the flooding we are having and a disturbing find on Facebook. I've some some opinions today, so watch out. If you are offended, so be it.


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Yesterday afternoon we had no idea what we were in store for. We knew we would have some warm spring temps then back to winter on Friday. I could handle that but the weather had other ideas. With heavy rain last night and the local tv weather telling me to expect 1"- 2" of rain just today, our daily dynamic was going to change. In fact I almost welcomed freezing temperatures and snow when I heard what was going to happen.  Ha Ha

I'm going to ramble all over the place this morning. In between all of this verbal onslaught I will include photos taken this morning and will interject a comment about that photo at times.

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I started a new Facebook account a few months ago for a couple of reasons. (1) easy to follow my sports teams with great photos. (2) A few friends like seeing photos of the hounds but don't follow or have time to read the blog. I don't post a lot of photos there nor do I post them daily. When I do they are the same ones I post on blog but only a few.

So that put me under control of Facebook. I don't like that but I do my best to limit their access to me by not downloading their App on any of my devices. I have some privacy settings but they still insist on telling me who I might know and who I need to add as a friend every time I look at my account. 99.9% of the people they suggest I have no idea who they are. That changed yesterday afternoon.

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There was someone I knew, that Facebook was suggesting. The problem was he died last March, not quite a year ago. Was his Facebook account left open on purpose? Or did his wife not know his account password, needed to delete his account at the time of his death? Why was his account still active .... HE'S DEAD !!!!!

What was very disturbing to me was as I scrolled his "timeline", there were people from his friends list making posts on his "timeline" as if he was living. Didn't they know he had died almost a year ago? IF they did not know, then what kind of friend are they or were they?

Oh, it gets better or sadder ... depending on your point of view.

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All the photos of the hounds from this point and above ... were from yesterday afternoon.

The more I scrolled his Facebook timeline the more pissed I got. When I got as far back as November 2018 I really got confused. Where I really question "what are these f..... people doing!!!!"

It was his birthday where the "Facebook Sickness" exposed it's ugly head, from real living people that were on his friends list. I saw people wishing him a "Happy Birthday - Have a Great Day!!"  (He's dead!!!) One person even wanted to get together!!! Others were doing the same Happy Birthday wishes but adding to enjoy his day in heaven. Or "I know you and ....... are together celebrating this birthday together"

I may offend some reading this but personally I think doing this ON FACEBOOK is just sick as shit !!!! SICK !!!! DEAD PEOPLE DO NOT READ F......... FACEBOOK !!!!

2019 Feb 07

I know that Facebook is such a big part of people's lives. The success to many is how many likes they get or how many photos they can show to the world of where they have been or what they are eating. Facebook is their life, too many people. That does not apply to me.

This death and Facebook is what disturbs me.

I'm fine with some sort of announcement at the time of their death by friends. Those same friends can leave their thoughts or praise for the person that has died. That's fine ..... but talking to dead people on FACEBOOK in current terms or 1st person language almost a year after he had died is a huge problem with me. I think it's sick, and not normal.

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Of course it's not all the fault of the Facebook user or friend. (the thunder that just took place scared the crap out of me enough for me to jump a little in my seat). Facebook will automatically send out birthday notifications from that account to everyone on their friends list.

Based on the 123 comments I scrolled through on "his" birthday ... most of them were most likely typed from THEIR timeline when they got the notification .... STILL if you were really a friend you would know that he had died 11 months ago.

Here is the most disturbing part that I have not told you yet.

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His granddaughter, in her mid-30's has two boys younger than 7 years old. As she posted the day he died, "they were his pride and joy". That's fine and a very understandable post on the day or day after he died. BUT .... since that time in March, she has posted on his timeline on a regular basis, talking in a tone ad if he is still alive. She gives updates to him on her two little boys. She tells him she misses him. ALL ON FACEBOOK for the world to see because the setting is on "Public" !!!!

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I can understand her feelings and working through grief. I know we all handle death in different ways. We mourn death of friends, family members and even our dogs in different ways. I understand the different beliefs of people when it comes to heaven and death.

But really .... is Facebook the place to do all of that? Do they have to make it so public, readable by people that do not know the man, are not on his friends list nor a family relative? All because of the post setting is set to "public" and not "friends" or "friends of friends"???

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I understand and will to let people express their grief, etc in a way they feel good about it BUT to me DOING IT ON FACEBOOK IS JUST RIDICULOUS !!!!

So with all of the high tech knowledge of the Facebook employees, engineers, and system ... why can't they automatically delete the account of the deceased person at the time of death or at least within the week of his death? Why can't a spouse or relative send an email to Facebook Support or even a post on his timeline to "delete this account due to his/her death."

Do you really want to mourn and honor the death of a loved one or a family member or even a friend ON FACEBOOK ????  Really ??? UN .... F........ BELIEVABLE !!!!!

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Obviously my underground drainage system I installed many many (too many) years ago is plugged with mud, dirt etc where it is not draining as designed. That is never a good thing that close to the house. Installing a new system will be #1 on the list starting this spring.

2019 Feb 07

First thing this morning when I opened the door to let the hounds outside, like every morning, Stella almost knocked me down as she turned around at the door to head back to the living room or bedroom. She had not even stepped outside when she heard the hard rain. So it took a few hours before she finally went outside at my urging.

Notice how she tries to step around the standing water just like she did the ice in the field last week? Today that would be pretty hard to do because the carport floor has water everywhere as well as the backyard. But ... she has to pee.

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Thinking long and hard what to do.

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Maybe the driest way to get to the yard is to go the other direction and force a new opening in the wall of the house to get outside.

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She finally gives up and comes back to walk around the corner of the house in light rain and a flooded backyard.

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She was successful, but it's going to be a very very long day for her .... no walks today since the rain is not suppose to let up until 5pm today.  By that time we might be flowing down the hill.  :) It will be a day of hard rain off and on to reach our newly announced amount of 2" of rain by the end of the day. Maybe more.

Snow possible on Sunday.  :)

My Flipboard account supplied me with a lot to read this morning

I finished reading Team of Vipers late last night. I highly recommend reading this book. I have read all the others that have come out the past year from insiders that left the White House, the book by Bob Woodruff, the book by James Clapper etc. This is the best book of all of them and one that I feel is the most accurate.

I don't want to tell all that this book said .... but ... I found out that the majority of the people that left their jobs working for the President were NOT forced out by him but by the infighting between Trump people from the campaign and friends vs the people from the RNC that were hired by Trump to work in his administration.

My respect for John Kelly drastically changed after reading this book.

After this post I will start reading The Deep State by Jason Chaffetz.

It looks like I have fallen off the deep edge back into the coverage of politics. Sports news good or bad is a lot more fun to follow.

Twitter noticed what the dingbat AOC and Nancy were doing during the SOTU and basically burned both of them from all different angles. Personally I feel that the Democrats are going to investigate their way right out of the 2020 election. Between the constant investigations (5 new Democratic committees start today) and the Socialist Left they don't stand a chance of beating President Trump in 2020.

In the meantime I am very interested in learning more about Howard Schwartz and hearing him speak. It's too bad that most likely the Democrats will do their best to destroy him, his family and his reputation before 2020.

Will it take 3-16 weeks before I can tell if Heidi has an allergy problem with lamb and rice instead of chicken and rice? (lost connection again and hard rain, can barely see outside) So far she shows no signs of a reaction but it's only been a few days.

Let me clarify my policy on making comments. Yes ... honest and opinionated are OKAY .... BUT a tone of arguing or being what I call a snarky comment is NOT OKAY. I'll either delete it when I see it or I will reply with the same type of venom and tone you sent to me. That depends on what mood you catch me in. There are times I hate putting up with bullshit from people.

So if that offends you, you can decide what you need to do because I will not apologize for what I do or say. Basically you blast me I am going to blast you back because I just don't care at that point. If you decide after that you don't want to read the blog ... that's fine too. I don't care.

I'll post this as soon as I get my internet connection back.

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I almost forgot this photo. I was going to delete it but then the more I looked at it the more I liked it. Taken last month with the Nikon D3200, no flash, late afternoon. The sunshine and the two colored chew bones were interesting.

I have turned off the tv .... and will step out of and away from following the news ... at 11:48am. Sickening .... total bullshit and a WASTE !!!! I'm DONE with keeping up with political bullshit !!!!

We might have to start building an ark here in 'the tropics' of Southern Indiana.

8 comments:

  1. Steve, I agree with you totally... I do NOT want to mourn or honor the death of a loved one or a family member or even a friend ON FACEBOOK or even some of the other sites!!!

    My very good friend, Michelle, who lived in Florida, passed away on November 12th, and a lot of her mostly family members were wishing her a happy birthday on December 2nd. ALL said this as if she were going to read their messages personally, except for one who wished her a happy birthday in heaven. :(

    We started having thunder, lightning and fairly heavy rain/sleet around two this morning and woke up to almost 2" of a hard snow that you could not sweep or shovel until it was salted a bit and the sun came out shortly after noon. It is 16° now at 1:00pm and MIGHT just make it to our supposed high of 19°. Did I already say that I am sooooo over this winter? LOL

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  2. Steve-- you have my sympathies on the death of your friend, your wade through his 'friends' idiocies, and connectivity issues.

    To begin with the latter-- boy do I know what that's like. When we first moved to rural Mississippi, and for years after, we tethered to our phones, or used our Verizon phones & devices as hot spots. At first it wasn't too bad. But over the years it became stupidly expensive, slow & unreliable, and the service was awful. I quit blogging altogether because I couldn't upload a 300mb picture. BUT THEN! AT&T Fixed Wireless Internet became available and we jumped on it. Don't know if it's available in your area but if so, check it out. $70 for 340GB of data. Even when our daughter & her husband lived on the property (and they streamed a lot) we never used more than 200GB. No charge for exceeding 340, they just slow you down. We reliably get download speeds of 40-60mbps. So real high speed internet.

    'Friends'-- I don't do fb except to auto-post from the blog. Somehow my life goes on! I'd disagree with your comments about the daughter posting as a way to handle grief. WTF is wrong with her? This is not an emotionally mature person. If she wants to "talk" to Daddy, she ought to do what people have done for centuries and that's write in a private journal. If she's making a record of her kids' lives, it will one day be a very personal memento to share when they are older. Perhaps even a way for them to get to know better who Grandpa was. But right. This is just wrong.

    Or-- as my husband and I like to say, "There is great confusion on Earth" (from an old Willie song).

    Again, sorry about your friend. And sorry to have rambled!

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  3. I thought my finding on Facebook was just mind boggling and sickening. Today was a high of 60° and is heading to 15° before Friday morning, hard to believe.

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  4. Thank you for your long reply. You can always ramble here.

    At this time AT&T services for unlimited data is not available. I talked to Verizon a few months ago and what I have right now, Huguesnet Gen 5 is the best I can get. WOW...that's a great price for all of that data.

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  5. Well think our weather pattern has finally changed. Rain and snow projected over the weekend and then more rain again from about Wednesday through the following weekend. We locals are getting prepared for another onslaught of tourists for this weekend and next weekend (President's weekend) coming to play in the snow, ski, etc. I will not bore you with the details of how they abuse our mountain communities/area and leave their trash, etc. behind when the leave. It's a real disgrace.

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  6. People don't seem to be as considerate as they use to be or maybe I am just getting old. I've lived in two tourist towns, one on the southern calif beach and the other in the mountains of colorado ... we didn't see that happening when they left. Sorry to hear that.

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  7. I have lived here over 33 years and have to say that way back we did not have these issues. Locals started to see the changes over the last five years or so. The least amount of snow brings the tourists here by the van loads. Over the last couple of weekends the one main highway has been backed up literally 20 miles with bumper to bumper cars coming up to our area and then the reverse at the end of the day when they leave They literally park in the traffic lanes to let the kids out to play in the snow (couple of weeks ago there were 70 cars parked in the north bound traffic lane and were ticketed), block driveways to let their kids play on private property, set up bar-b-ques on the side of the highway, and hinder the response of our EMT's & Fire Department, etc. Then when they are ready to leave dump their trash, dirty diapers, broken sledding disks wherever they were parked and leave.They have no respect for private property nor the National Forest that we live in. Additionally the number of accidents is up as so many of them do not know how to drive in the snow/slush conditions nor use chains. Very sad to see. I am fortunate to live on a quiet out of the way lane, and personally do not have the trespassing issues, etc. as so many others are dealing with. Didn't mean to rant.

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  8. Ranting is fine ... no problem. Your story reminds me of the time I lived in Carlsbad CA in the 70's and until 1984. Living across the street from the Pacific Ocean only had parking on one side of the street. Thus I could get blocked out of my own driveway if I took a change to go to the store or leave my house by car on weekends.

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